Garden Space Coaching & Wellness LLC

Hi, I'm Vee (she/her)

I'm a Texas-born product of a former Marine Corps, liberal trans-woman and artist, and a relatively conservative, southern former school teacher who divorced when I was in grade school. Of course, that is a gross underrepresentation of the full spectrum of both their personhoods, but you get the picture. Just like you, I started out in this world steeped in my own family's culture as well as social norms and expectations that set me up for how I would navigate modern dating and relationships. As you might imagine, between Mom, Dad*, and society, those values and expectations were all over the board and often clashed. I tell you this because examining my origins has been part of the work to clarify not just my academic understanding of human development and relational dynamics, but also a felt sense of what it's like to reorient, adapt, recenter, and grow. It can be really hard work, maybe the hardest of your life. Sometimes, though, the hardest things to work on are the ones most worth the work.

As a professional working through a social justice lens, I'm compelled to add that at this point in my life, I also recognize that I carry the privilege of a white, middle aged, able-bodied, straight-passing ciswoman in a mono and heteronormative marriage. As an intersectional ally and an anti-racist, I recognize the continuous accountability, work, humility, and responsibility to unpack and unlearn colonialist ideology in service to all of us.

All of our identities factor into how we show up in our relationships, and I invite you to think about yours. Among other things that have come and gone over the years, I'm also a mother, stepmother, daughter, sister, spouse, friend, gardener**, former teacher, cancer survivor, divorce recoverer, and (of course!) an experienced coach and licensed therapist*** with well over a decade of experience who loves what she gets to do for a living. Alongside my years of experience and education, I bring myself, as a human, to our work together. As Walt Whitman said,  "I contain multitudes," and so do you.

* Not all trans families will keep familial titles like "Dad." Part of our story is that we did.

** For the record, I firmly believe you don't have to be great at your hobbies to love them!

*** Yes, I am also a licensed therapist, and if I am your coach or workshop facilitator I cannot be your therapist. Please see the About page for additional information.